How to Choose Your Wedding Party without Alienating your Friends and Family

While wedding planning can be exciting, it can also be stressful.  Selecting your wedding party is a major decision. These are the people who will support you on one of the most important days of your life, but they will also be extremely important in the preparation and execution of your wedding.

“… it's important to choose people who will be able to make the necessary commitments.”

First and foremost, examine your closest friends and family members, as well as those who will support you the most during the wedding preparation process. These are the people who should be available to you for support, advice, and assistance with tasks. They should be people you can rely on and trust. It's also a good idea to think about how well they get along with one another and whether they can function effectively as a team.

You might want to think about choosing people who have played a key role in your life for a long time or who have helped you through life's big moments. Identify the roles your bridal party will need to play to help you narrow down your possibilities. A wedding party typically consists of a maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, and groomsmen. Depending on the size and complexity of your wedding, you might also wish to include flower girls, boys, or even men (fanny packs and all).

 

“…consider whether they get along with each other and will be able to work well as a team.”

Once you've identified the roles that need to be filled, you can begin considering certain individuals who would be a good fit for each position. Think about the following factors before making your decisions:

  1. Can the person commit to the time and financial commitments required to be in the wedding party? It's crucial to select people who can fulfill the demands of being in a wedding party because it might be a significant time and money commitment.

  2. Take into account the involvement and availability of your wedding party. Members of your wedding party will be expected to help with different wedding-related duties leading up to the big day, attend fittings, and attend rehearsals. Ensure that you choose people who are able and willing to devote the required amount of time.

When it comes to selecting specific individuals for your bridal party, it's important to be considerate of their feelings. Give them a clear understanding of your reasons for asking them to join your bridal party, as well as the time commitment involved. Don't be afraid to have difficult conversations if you need to, but be sure to do so with kindness and respect.

Ultimately, the most important thing is to choose people who will make your special day even more special.  Don't be scared to be picky and only invite those guests that you would genuinely like to be in your wedding party. The people you pick to stand with you should be a reflection of the fact that your wedding day is all about celebrating the love and commitment between you and your partner.